“Don’t let anybody tell you what to do. Go ahead and do it. What’s important is that you are happy.”People give this advice like distributing freebies of a new drug in the market. They forget how dangerous it is.

Remember this: Just because you are happy doesn’t make your decision automatically right.

Your happiness is just one but not the only criteria of a good decision. There are more.

For instance, a person hooked into drugs cannot go up to his parents and say, “Dad, Mom, I am happy being a drug addict. So just let me be.”

When our happiness becomes the sole basis for our decisions, we can get into a lot of trouble. We begin to sanction the improper and even the immoral in the name of our happiness.

May I suggest some questions to ask one’s self before making a decision?

1. Will this decision honor God?

God doesn’t want you to be just happy. He also wants you to be holy.

Your holiness is your passport to a life of joy. “Happiness” is dependent on what’s “happening” to you. “Joy” on the other hand is dependent solely on being in a right relationship with your creator.

2. Will this decision hurt those who matter most in my life?

As the saying goes, “No one is an island.”

And because you’re not, you need to consider not only your happiness but the well-being of those around you. Always remember that people are affected by your decisions. And the most affected are those who truly love you and those you truly love.

3. Will this decision hurt myself?

Just because you don’t hurt anyone else doesn’t automatically make your decision right. Why? Because unknowingly, this decision might be destroying you.

For instance, a person hooked into gambling finds happiness in his vice not knowing that it subtly destroys his mind and will.

A couple in a wrong sexual relationship can give birth not just to unwanted children but also to incurable illnesses.

Drugs and porn bring pleasure but erode one’s self-control and self-respect.

Not everything that brings you happiness is actually good for you.

4. How will this decision affect the succeeding generations?

We cannot be pre-occupied with short-term band-aid solutions to our problems to the detriment of the future generation. We cannot be selfish at pushing an agenda to ease our predicament and for our own personal happiness with no regard for its effect on the generations that are to come.

We cannot sanction (and even applaud) the institutionalization of what is morally wrong as a quick-fix solution to our difficulty with no regard for its enduring effect in the minds and hearts of the youth of our nation and the world.

Making decisions is easy.

Making right decisions is not.

Today, make that first decision: To decide not only based on what would make you happy but based on something so much bigger than you!



I am reminded of a funny story often told by preachers…A man told his pastor that he was leaving his church because of its imperfections. He would rather attend the church in another town because that other church is perfect. His pastor immediately responded, “Oh please don’t join that church.”

“And why is that?” he asked.

“Because if you join that perfect church, it won’t be perfect anymore.”


The church is often criticized for all its imperfections. And rightly so for it truly is imperfect. For in this world, nothing is perfect.

Including you and me.

And that’s what makes us human. Just because a man wears a vestment doesn’t make him a saint. He is frail. He is weak. He is undoubtedly a sinner.

Just like you and me.

I am.

I criticize.
I lose my temper.
I resent.

But just because I am a sinner does not disqualify me from calling everyone else to holiness.

Just because one slips during the climb doesn’t prevent him from encouraging everyone else to get to the mountaintop. While the messenger may be unworthy, the message is still worth proclaiming.

With all its imperfections, the Catholic Church combined with other Christian churches still has the most number of orphanages, schools and hospitals all over the world.

We can fault the church for its follies but we must never forget to celebrate its wins.

When my father was a young man, he was into a lot of trouble. Drinking sprees. Street brawls. Bar fights. But one of the things which kept him in church was a young foreigner priest who mirrored to him the love of God. Later on, my father turned a new leaf. He finished school, went on to become a lawyer and an amazing family man.

The church will never give up on us because God never will.

Pray for the church.
Pray for the priests.
Pray for the lay faithful.

Let the words of scripture ring true today more than ever:

“on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of hell will not prevail over it” (Matthew 16:18)

I am Bobby Quitain.

I am Catholic.

I am a Christian.

I love the Church.